Part Two of the sixth anniversary of Blogging “Minding Therapy” provides more updates and thoughts regarding posts frequently visited since I started this site.
- Any type of abuse
- All contact is negative
- The related stress affects important areas of your life
- Gossip about you and ostracizing by family members is out of control
- Relationship(s) are one-sided
- You’re being used for money
- Ongoing verbal arguments or withdrawals that go nowhere constructive
- When you just know intuitively
Asexual people are often told they will one day find ‘the one’ and develop sexual feelings and the values society attaches to them. Many asexual folks have to hear this over and over and over again, which thrusts a perpetual image of immaturity upon them. Asexuality is not a signal that a person is necessarily stunted emotionally or physically, and feeling sexual attraction or inclination is not the line everyone must cross to be treated like an adult. Maturity should not be measured by willingness or inclination to seek out or accept sexual experiences.
From a 2015 article by Sarah Boxer, The Atlantic, called “The Exemplary Narcissism of Snoopy”:
Many early Peanuts fans—and this may come as a shock to later fans raised on the sweet milk of Happiness Is a Warm Puppy—were attracted to the strip’s decidedly unsweet view of society…
At the center of this world was Charlie Brown, a new kind of epic hero—a loser who would lie in the dark recalling his defeats, charting his worries, planning his comebacks. One of his best-known lines was ‘My anxieties have anxieties.’ Although he was the glue holding together the Peanuts crew (and its baseball team), he was also the undisputed butt of the strip. His mailbox was almost always empty. His dog often snubbed him, at least until suppertime, and the football was always yanked away from him. The cartoonist Tom Tomorrow calls him a Sisyphus. Frustration was his lot. When [creator Charles] Schulz was asked whether for his final strip he would let Charlie Brown make contact with the football, he reportedly replied, ‘Oh, no! Definitely not!… That would be a terrible disservice to him after nearly half a century.’
Writer Nico Lang tries retelling Alex’s story from a woman’s point of view in a 2016 Salon article about “pushing back against the misogyny of the ‘bunny boiler’ cliches.” The gist:
Alex Forrest (Glenn Close) is a high-powered editor at a publishing company. Wealthy, beautiful, and successful, she meets a man, Dan (Michael Douglas), with whom she has a passionate, tumultuous affair. (She’s got her own emotional baggage, after all.) Alex gets pregnant, but there’s a problem: He’s married. Terrified that this might be her last shot at motherhood (she’s nearing her 40s), Alex decides to keep the child. Dan is unsupportive of her decision and repeatedly tries to avoid communication with her or responsibility for the situation. After Alex has a protracted meltdown, Dan later kills her.
Co-author of the informative 2012 book on chronotherapy, Michael Terman, is on the board of CET, Center for Environmental Therapeutics, which provides tools for self-assessment regarding depression, your circadian rhythm type, and treatment options that match your status. Go to this link.