Imagine yourself living in a space that contains only things that spark joy. Isn’t this the lifestyle you dream of? Keep only those things that speak to your heart. Then take the plunge and discard all the rest. By doing this you can reset your life and embark on a new lifestyle. Marie Kondo, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up, about decluttering
She made it this year into Time‘s “top 100” of influential people. And why wouldn’t she? The promises of Marie Kondo‘s 2014 bestseller The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing are impressive. From the publisher:
Once you have your house in order you will find that your whole life will change. You can feel more confident, you can become more successful, and you can have the energy and motivation to create the life you want. You will also have the courage to move on from the negative aspects of your life: you can recognise and finish a bad relationship; you can stop feeling anxious; you can finally lose weight…
Noting that “to kondo” has actually now become a thing, Ron Charles, The Washington Post, adds:
Kondo speaks of people being ‘led by fate’ to read her book. And she guarantees that her method, the KonMari Method, ‘will change your life forever.’ Like every successful self-help book, this one promises that the method is easy and simple and that everyone who sincerely applies it will succeed.
Simplicity is indeed considered one of the book’s assets. But also perhaps a liability—more than one reader has stated that to read only the jacket copy is to read the essence of the book.
What exactly is “The Life-Changing Magic…”?
Kondo: “Effective tidying involves only two essential actions, discarding and deciding where to store things.”
Penelope Green, New York Times: “…Discard everything that does not ‘spark joy,’ after thanking the objects that are getting the heave-ho for their service; and do not buy organizing equipment — your home already has all the storage you need.”
J.J. O’Donoghue, Japan Times: “For Kondo, cleaning is not just an aesthetic improvement; it reflects psychological issues. You know the saying tidy house, tidy mind. Conversely, the mess about you is symptomatic of ‘larger issues’.”
Psychiatrist Emily Deans, Psychology Today, elaborates: “…Kondo tells us to purge first, all at once (or at least over a sustained period of a few months), and her method is different from nearly every other one I’ve heard of because instead of focusing on what you throw out, it tells you to focus on what you should keep.”
If you’re interested in a summary of Kondo’s decluttering tips, Psychologies lists 10 of the main ones. (Click on the link for more info.)
1. DO IT ALL AT ONCE, AND DO IT NOW
2. DISCARD FIRST, SORT AND TIDY LATER
3. START WITH THE EASY STUFF
4. PUT EVERYTHING IN EACH CATEGORY IN ONE PLACE FIRST
5. THROW AWAY EVERYTHING YOU DON’T LOVE
6. DITCH YOUR PAPERWORK
7. LET GO WITH LOVE (GIFTS AND KEEPSAKES)
8. DON’T BUY EXPENSIVE OR COMPLICATED STORAGE EQUIPMENT
9. LEARN HOW TO FOLD CLOTHES – THEN STORE THEM ‘STANDING UP’
10. TREAT YOUR POSSESSIONS LIKE PEOPLE
Does KonMari work? Millions of books sold and lots of consumer and critical praise seems indicative at the very least that Kondo’s decluttering method is ultra-catchy and hope-inducing.
Does everyone agree on KonMari’s awesomeness? Of course not. Just as some never endorsed the wildly popular, Oprah-supported The Secret (to name one example of another “magical” intervention) some also haven’t bought into this tidying-up book du jour.
It isn’t hard, for instance, to find reader reviews such as this one (Barnes and Noble website):
…The first chapter was mildly interesting and then the book switched to how to have OCD. The way she talks about socks was crazy (she thinks they have feelings). She had an episode when she was young and she broke down crying about dirty shampoo bottles in the shower and now she dries each bottle and puts it away after her shower. The author also obsessively talks about that we must strive for perfection. She has very unhealthy attitudes and it makes me cringe that this is listed under self-help books…Her attitudes come off as judging and naïve…I will be getting rid of this book promptly because it does not bring me any joy…
That’s one point for effective tossing.
But in order to lose weight and/or become less anxious and/or solve a thorny relationship issue, someone is going to have to do better than that.