New Workbooks/Guides: Relationships with Self/Others

How to relate to your romantic partner, how to process aspects of having a transgender partner, and how to build your own self-confidence are topics featured in three new workbooks and guides.

I. Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by John Gottman, PhD, Julie Schwartz Gottman, PhD, Doug Abrams, Rachel Carlton Abrams, MD

The Gottmans, who run a famed relationship lab called The Gottman Institute, recognize that most couples don’t communicate enough and/or do too much of their talking these days via text and email.

According to Nicole Brodeur, Seattle Times, the authors “call this book — their fourth together — ‘a tested program of eight fun, conversation-based dates that will result in a lifetime of understanding and commitment, whether a couple is newly in love or has been together for decades’.”

More about the content:

The book’s chapters are themed, as are the dates. They start with trust and commitment and move through how to address conflict; sex and intimacy; work and money; family; fun and adventure; growth and spirituality; and dreams.

Each chapter has conversation topics, preparation (read: homework, in the form of questions) and includes suggestions on where to have the dates, what to wear and what to bring (‘An open mind and a willingness to be vulnerable with your partner,’ they write on the sex and intimacy date).

Previous posts on this site that offer background regarding Gottman Institute research and material include the following:

II. The Self Confidence Workbook: A Guide to Overcoming Self-Doubt and Improving Self-Esteem by Barbara Markway, PhD, and Celia Ampel

An excerpt from the publisher’s blurb:

Walk out on stage, ask for a raise, write a blog post, or ask someone out on a date. This self confidence workbook helps you achieve whatever you set your mind to…

Viktor Sander, B.Sc., B.A., SocialProNow, picks this as the best self-esteem book on the market. See the link for nine others.

III. The Reflective Workbook for Partners of Transgender People: Your Transition as Your Partner Transitions by D.M. Maynard  

A new workbook that could be of interest to many. Unfortunately, that’s all I’ve got—as far as I can tell, no reviews have yet been posted.

Other resources for trans partners, by the way, can be found at

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