“Above all, be the heroine of your life, not the victim.” Nora Ephron
This is just one of many serious quotes that have been attributed to writer Nora Ephron (1941-2012), who died this week after a secret battle with leukemia.
But Nora Ephron was also known for her sense of humor. And one of her friends has publicly noted that even as Ephron was dying, she was still cracking jokes. Not that she wasn’t also showing sadness. She could do both.
“My mother wanted us to understand that the tragedies of your life one day have the potential to be comic stories the next.”
I don’t know if she was ever in therapy, but she did seem therapy-oriented in some ways. For example, in her first novel, the semi-autobiographical Heartburn (1983), group therapy figured prominently. The movie version, which featured Meryl Streep as lead character Rachel, contained a scene in which she and others get robbed during a session.
Actually, it’s quite possible that in real life Nora Ephron spurned shrinkage in favor of something else. According to the New York Times, she once said about her choice to engage in twice-a-week professional blow-drying of her hair:
“It’s cheaper by far than psychoanalysis and much more uplifting.”
Also on the topic of hair, she had stated:
“…the amount of maintenance involving hair is genuinely overwhelming. Sometimes I think that not having to worry about your hair anymore is the secret upside of death.”
Here’s Ephron in 2004—with good hair—getting big laughs during a tribute to Streep:
Other Nora Ephron quotes of interest:
“Insane people are always sure that they are fine. It is only the sane people who are willing to admit that they are crazy.”
“[A successful parent is one] who raises a child who grows up and is able to pay for his or her own psychoanalysis.”
“When you’re attracted to someone, it just means that your subconscious is attracted to their subconscious, subconsciously. So what we think of as fate is just two neuroses knowing that they are a perfect match.”
“Sometimes I believe that some people are better at love than others, and sometimes I believe that everyone is faking it.”
“Never marry a man you wouldn’t want to be divorced from.”
“You always think that a bolt of lightning is going to strike and your parents will magically change into the people you wish they were, or back into the people they used to be.”