Aug 03

Worry (Selected Quotes): A Wasted Emotion

Worry is interest paid on trouble before it falls due. W.R. Inge

And some other pithy quotes about worry:

Karen Salmansohn: “Worrying is blurrying. It stops you from seeing clearly.”

Corrie Ten Boom: “Worrying is carrying tomorrow’s load with today’s strength– carrying two days at once. It is moving into tomorrow ahead of time. Worrying doesn’t empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength.”

A.J. Cronin: “Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, but only saps today of its strength.”

The Buffalo News: “Worry is like a rocking chair: It gives you something to do but never gets you anywhere.”

Voltaire: “The longer we dwell on our misfortunes, the greater is their power to harm us.”

Mark Twain: “I am an old man and have had a great many troubles, but most of them never happened.”

Eckhart Tolle: “What will be left of all the fearing and wanting associated with your problematic life situation that every day takes up most of your attention? A dash, one or two inches long, between the date of birth and date of death on your gravestone.”

Ana Monnar: “Whatever is going to happen will happen, whether we worry or not.”

Dalai Lama XIV: “If a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it, then there is no need to worry. If it’s not fixable, then there is no help in worrying. There is no benefit in worrying whatsoever.”

Max Lucado: “How can a person deal with anxiety? You might try what one fellow did. He worried so much that he decided to hire someone to do his worrying for him. He found a man who agreed to be his hired worrier for a salary of $200,000 per year. After the man accepted the job, his first question to his boss was, ‘Where are you going to get $200,000 per year?’ To which the man responded, ‘That’s your worry.’

Jan 02

Afraid of Change? Check Out These Tips On How to Cope

Do you consider yourself afraid of change?

I mean the kind that represents something not chosen, something largely or solely outside of our control. The breakup, the loss of your job, the death of a friend or family member, for example.

Robert Taibbi, clinical social worker, offers some advice in a Psychology Today post about how to be less afraid of change. Below are his tips for coping, including excerpts from his explanations:

  • Expect to feel depressed and anxious. Whenever we move forward we leave something behind, and this creates a psychological state of grief, however small…We are out of our comfort zone; our imaginations run wild; we worry about an unknown future.
  • Realize that this is a new/old chapter in your life. While you need to acknowledge your loss, you don’t want to get stuck in the past. Acknowledging that a door is closed is psychologically healthy; spending your time staring at it is not.
  • Think positive, think opportunity. In the movie Up In the Air George Clooney played a character whose job is to fire people for companies that were downsizing. He always began his termination speech with  “I’m here to talk to you about new opportunities.” Is it a bit of spin, a bit forced – sure – but it is also true.
  • Hit the ground running. And don’t take too long to get started. We are creatures of habit and routine, and those routines can congeal quickly.
  • Get support. When you are feeling a bit ungrounded, support from others can help you keep perspective and moving ahead.
  • Have realistic timeframes and expectations.

AFRAID OF CHANGE: SOME PERTINENT QUOTES

John A. Simone, Sr.: “If you’re in a bad situation, don’t worry it’ll change. If you’re in a good situation, don’t worry it’ll change.”

Shrunryu Suzuki: “Without accepting the fact that everything changes, we cannot find perfect composure.  But unfortunately, although it is true, it is difficult for us to accept it.  Because we cannot accept the truth of transience, we suffer.”

Sydney J. Harris: “Our dilemma is that we hate change and love it at the same time; what we really want is for things to remain the same but get better.”

Eckhart Tolle: “Some changes look negative on the surface but you will soon realize that space is being created in your life for something new to emerge.”

Roseanne Cash: “The key to change… is to let go of fear.”

Anatole France: “All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another.”

Victor Frankl: “When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.”