Jun 13

OCD Memoirs: Three Recent Contributions

Obsessive-compulsive disorder is usually familiarly known as OCD in today’s parlance, but until recently OCD memoirs have been scarce. Below are three worth considering:

I. Lily Bailey, Because We Are Bad (2018)

Bailey is a British model. From the publisher’s blurb: “By the age of thirteen, Lily Bailey was convinced she was bad. She had killed someone with a thought, spread untold disease, and ogled the bodies of other children. Only by performing an exhausting series of secret routines could she make up for what she’d done. But no matter how intricate or repetitive, no act of penance was ever enough.”

Excerpt from Kirkus Reviews: “As a child, the author privately referred to herself as ‘we.’ However, the girl that ‘shared’ Bailey’s mind was no imaginary friend: she was the ‘other’ who drove her to check on her sleeping sister several times a night, wash her hands to rawness, and mentally repeat elaborate ‘prayer[s].’ She existed to ensure that Bailey carried out rituals as ‘protection against everything going wrong’ and make up for all her real and imagined mistakes…”

After significant struggles, therapy eventually helped her manage her condition.

II. Shala Nicely, Is Fred in the Refrigerator? (2018)

As a child Nicely had “nightly rituals” to deal with horrifying thoughts. “…(S)he knew to obey her mind’s Rule #1: keep its secret, or risk losing everything and everyone she loved.”

More from the publisher: “It would be almost two decades before she learned the name of the menacing monster holding her hostage…It would take years longer to piece together the keys to recovery that would change her life forever, beginning with the day she broke her monster’s silence.”

And now Nicely is a therapist specializing in treatment of this disorder. In addition to writing this memoir, she’s also the co-author of Everyday Mindfulness for OCD: Tips, Tricks, and Skills for Living Joyfully (2017).

III. David Adam, The Man Who Couldn’t Stop (2015)

From the publisher’s blurb: “David Adam…has suffered from obsessive-compulsive disorder for twenty years, and The Man Who Couldn’t Stop is his unflinchingly honest attempt to understand the condition and his experiences. In this riveting and intimate blend of science, history, and memoir, Adam explores the weird thoughts that exist within every mind and explains how they drive millions of us toward obsession and compulsion.”

Jun 19

OCPD (Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder) Is Not OCD

OCPD (obsessive compulsive personality disorder) is not the same as OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder)—but more on that later.

First, some new info on OCD. The Man Who Couldn’t Stop: OCD and the True Story of a Life Lost in Thought is personal to author David Adam, who also did significant research on the issue in order to write this book.

Below is a sampling of how some reviewers summarize Adam’s own progress, including what’s helped him. Note: as these are all British sources, you’ll see corresponding spelling variations.

Leyla Sanai, The Independent: “Adam’s own OCD centred around an irrational fear of contracting HIV. In this book he covers the history and aetiology of OCD, the various treatments that have been tried without success, such as Freudian analysis, or behavioural aversion therapy, and his experience of cognitive behavioural therapy, CBT, which was greatly helpful.”

Jane Shilling, The Telegraph: “Cognitive behavioural therapy, plus a daily dose of antidepressants, has brought him to the point where he is able to control intrusive thoughts by thinking, ‘What would most people do?'”

Jenny Turner, The Guardian, quotes Adam: “But ‘even on the drugs and after CBT…for most people it’s a bit like being a recovering alcoholic…I will probably always have OCD.'”

And what was “the single most useful fact” reviewer Turner got from this book?

OCD is completely different from OCPD, obsessive-compulsive personality disorder, which is simply to be a person with an unusually low tolerance for mess and imperfection – joke-anal people, like Monica from Friends. The need for order and ritual in the lives of OCPD people is ‘ego-syntonic’, odd and possibly anti-social, but simply part of who they are. In OCD people, on the other hand, the thoughts are ‘harrowing, ego-dystonic’, in endless, exhausting conflict with the person’s other drives and hopes. It’s like having a phobia, but worse, in that you can’t avoid it just by avoiding planes or spiders. The stimulus is internal. You generate it yourself.

Perhaps because OCPD is considered ego syntonic, less is written about this than many of the other personality disorders. On the other hand, considering that many with OCPD (and/or their loved ones) do recognize their symptoms and do seek relief and/or support, what’s out there for these individuals?

One resource is a small book available online called Tightrope Walking: All You Need to Know About OCPD and Perfectionism, written by Gwyneth Daniel Cheeseman, PhD. From the intro:

We all know one or more. They’re more often than not the most decent good-hearted people. But they tread a tightrope, a knife edge, all day every day. It’s hard. It’s stressful. They suffer. But they have to be in CONTROL everywhere and all the time, even though that is not possible… In this handbook, I’ve referred to these people as Tightrope Walkers (TR Walkers). This is because they have a terrible balancing act to do. They’re up on their own, doing what is ‘right’. Treading a fine line, between what is perfectly correct in their own minds, and what would be a slip-up, a failing/falling, an error.

Another book that’s been around since 1992 is still touted on OCPD forums as well as in consumer reviews as an excellent resource. It’s written by psychiatrist Allan E. Mallinger and Jeannette Dewyze and is called Too Perfect: When Being in Control Gets Out of Control.

Some of the possible traits of someone with OCPD, according to the authors:

  • Fear of making mistakes or wrong decisions
  • Strong devotion to work
  • Need for order and firm routine
  • Frugality
  • Need to know and follow the rules
  • Emotional guarded-ness
  • Tendency to be stubborn and oppositional
  • Heightened sensitivity to pressure
  • Inclination to worry
  • Need to be above criticism
  • Chronic inner pressure to use every minute productively

You can take the most widely known self test for OCPD online for free at this link. Or read Too Perfect and find it there.